8 Pivotal things to Maintain the Relationship

A relationship is a multidimensional thing. There are so many crucial factors that play out their roles in maintaining the bond. 

The relationship is like a plant that needs enough sunlight, nutritious soil, and measured watering. Once you figure out how much water and sunlight are needed to grow the plant and the quality of foundational soil then you can say you have done the best possible gardening to grow the plant of relationship. 

Therefore, let's look at 8 pivotal things that are very basic but equally powerful to grow and maintain this beautiful plant. 

1. Communication - Think about a scenario in which you are allowed to express your feelings, emotions, views, and opinions openly and freely. How would you feel then? Suppressing them will not help in a good way when it comes to balancing a relationship. Sharing is an integral part of any relationship. "Guess what is going on my mind" game will not be so fruitful here. This concept seems good in the fantasy but in reality, having a constant flow of communication between the partners is highly appreciable. Communication is like a romance that gets words to touch the hearts of loved ones.

2. Boundaries - What covers this? Giving the space, respecting privacy, knowing the limits in friendships once there is a commitment given to the potential partner, and other's interference in the partner's choices and decision-making are a few things to look upon. Have these things under check to avoid a hostile takeover of the serenity of your bond with the partner. Setting healthy boundaries is one of the main pillars of maintaining a bond. 

3. Honesty - Honesty is the best policy. Truthfulness ensures that the bond is free from all possible threats of misunderstandings. Mistakes are bound to happen. You cannot control this part but make sure that the mistakes are not so significant that they will shake the foundation of ethical and moral values. Confession of mistakes by keeping aside an inflated ego (This is the worst enemy. Always on the quest of breaking relationships.) helps to find the midway to sort out an issue.

4. Time - Quality time matters and not the amount of time you have given to the partner. Those mindful deep talks just need a few quality moments. These moments are much better than rubbish conflicting fights for hours. In this busy day and age, sparing time has become a tough task. But you can surely try to spare some time daily to give an empathetic ear to your partner's sayings. You both may feel heard and understood when there is a proper allocation of time to ask each other how the day has been for both. 

5. Clarity - It is important to know each other's preferences about a profession, home life, intimacy, and habits. It is okay to have differences in the partner's preferences. But being aware and clear about that helps to understand better where more adjustments are required and where things will go smoothly even without much effort. Striking balance is the best way to go instead of being adamant about having a like-minded approach when there is a question of preferences.

6. Flaws - Getting used to the flaws of the partner and accepting them could help to understand the other person. But what helps the most is being vocal about constructive views and opinions to let the other person find room to improve rather than just blaming how weirdo the other person is. We all are weirdos in some cases only the difference is those cases are different for us all. Hence, just pointing a finger at the other person's flaws is discouraging. Let them know how they can improve and just stand by their side along the way. 

7. Confrontations - This is the base of trust. When an outsider spreads hearsay about the partner, make sure you sit with the partner for confrontations to know the accuracy of the information you heard and to check the ground reality. Blaming the other person directly without giving them a chance to put forward their thoughts is not a justifying move. Listen patiently to what they have to say before jumping to conclusions right away. 

8. Attachments - Be Aware of forming unhealthy attachments. Depending on the partner for happiness, approval, validation, appreciation, choices, and decisions are easy pitfalls for emotional manipulation and domination by the other person. There has to be equal say, equal give and takes in the bond. Just one person draining out all the mental, and emotional energy is the step toward toxic attachments. 

Remember, real happiness comes from within...

The main approval, and validation matter from yourself first more than anybody else...

Patting your own back and making your own choices, and decisions are the way healthy attachments are built and sustained. 

Partners' opinions and views matter as guidance or direction on important matters but the ultimate choices and decisions have to be yours. 

These days, building a relationship is easy but sustaining that relationship has become a challenge. Everyone seems pumped during the phase of falling in love, dating, and commitment but as soon as these all turn into coupling the real problem starts popping in. Once the honeymoon phase is over, many relationships start shaking from the roots. 

Awareness is a powerful weapon to dig deeper into the foundations that are vital to maintaining the relationship. 

This article could be a reminder to you to Reconsider certain things in your bond or just Consider certain things in your bond with a dear one!!!